Who Defines Me

Who Defines Me?

Most people would very rapidly decide I define me. I have experienced this to not be the truth for the majority of people.

The fact is that there is an ideal self that most of us visit a lot less often then the real self that we are currently manifesting.

When I am working with a client who has manifested destroyed relationships, jail, brig, etc. the majority of the time at the heart of this is a poor self image. The quote from some clients is "I am a screw up". This is shame, or prior guilt and other-imposed definition of oneself.

Shame kills the same way affirmation gives hope to new life.

I have often said that "You will never rise above the definition of what you hold for yourself". This is proven with a principle in Psychology called Self-Fulfilling Prophesy.

In my own words and experience. Self-Fulfilling Prophesy negatively manifest for most people in this manner: I have a belief about myself in a situation. This belief may have validity it may not. To me it is true. I now seek out clues of my environment, interactions to make this belief true. When I find a clue that "proves" my definition I hold to it as truth and prove the initial belief with more validity.

What is holding you back then. Who defines you. Taking ownership of who defines you will either promote you or expose you. If I believe that today I am great husband, I will work toward manifesting and behaving in a way that is kind and loving with my wife, I will not do so for validation of the truth from her as a codependent individual would. I will do it as a confirmation of the belief I hold for myself. With practice my love grows as a husband and this definition gets firmer in my being as I manifest it outwardly.

Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/