10% of your brain's capacity? Have you ever heard that this is all that you use and thought: I wish I could find a way to get more out of what I've been given?
I have been puzzeled about this since I was roughly 7-8 years old (if I could use more of my brain I could probably remember the exact date).
Here is what I now know, after working on this one for a lot of years. . .
The myth that you have no access to your subconcious needs to be dispelled. You absolutely have access to your subconcious. You are the leader of the subconcious mind. I think so many people have heard about these two "facts" and wondered what can I do with them?
Here it is. . . it is so simple. . . you may miss it.
You don't have to work very hard to access more of your brain, or more importantly to gain the strenght that is the subconcious mind. Here is the key-
1) Try every day to be 1% better then the day prior in any area.
2) Discover what that 1% is by going and doing.
3) Do what you say you are going to do today and as your leaving take a quick look back and say if I had done this better then I would have had a result 1% better?
4) If awareness is key, you've just through your awareness given your subconcious an order to change your performance next time.
5) The next time you go about the task your subconcious will have you ready to do the activity naturally.
This is so easy that I've got to give an example. I was setting up some ads relating to a project I am working on. It will be frequent that I will be doing this activity. Rather then walking away and checking the task off the list. I looked back real quick and asked myself, how would I make this activity 1% more effective? I was amazed that I found 3 better places that would be more effective then the area I chose to advertise. I walked away with the awareness. . . my mind literally did the rest I can gurantee with no more concious mental or physical labor my activity tommorow will be more then 1% more effective. I can continue asking the question how could I have improved this activity 1% more everyday.
Rather then believing you have can only use 10% of your capacity look for opportunities to get more from it. Rather then telling yourself you have no access to your subconcious. Begin giving your subconcious demands to work out. Some of the greatest scientific discoveries have come as a result of a scientist waking up from a dream (subconcious working) with answer of his/her deep concentrated work.
Joshua Andrus
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Friday, July 31, 2009
Thursday, July 30, 2009
What A Child Knows
Yesterday I had a day-dream session that was going so well. You know the one, the imagination of the future was so clear that you get lost in the emotions of it. It was so clean, it was, as the saying goes- so close you can almost taste it.
Then what happened? Poof disappeared from distraction? The reality of life brought the distance which was great into clear view?
These are a couple of guesses of what may happen to you and your day-dreams.
I use day-dreams here to speak in terms most people can understand. Now I am going to flip the term to VISION. Those were not simply daydreams. They were gifts and desires that were placed into my mind for a reason. If they were of value and would cause me to stretch, make me work, make me stay up late, feed my righteous passions they were a gift from GOD.
Vision. I have a new rule that I will live by. I will day dream like a child and take action steps as an adult. I will never tell that child within what it can and cannot be, have, or do. As an adult I will hold myself accountable to set the goals to bring these visions to pass.
I will continue to keep a dream list and update it as I have these visions of the future. If I am going to work hard in the present anyway, I am either going to keep my head down and miss the opportunities or have it up seeing where I am going, letting the opportunities drive me forward so I can grab onto their promise.
Dream everyday as a CHILD, and take action steps as an ADULT.
Joshua Andrus
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Then what happened? Poof disappeared from distraction? The reality of life brought the distance which was great into clear view?
These are a couple of guesses of what may happen to you and your day-dreams.
I use day-dreams here to speak in terms most people can understand. Now I am going to flip the term to VISION. Those were not simply daydreams. They were gifts and desires that were placed into my mind for a reason. If they were of value and would cause me to stretch, make me work, make me stay up late, feed my righteous passions they were a gift from GOD.
Vision. I have a new rule that I will live by. I will day dream like a child and take action steps as an adult. I will never tell that child within what it can and cannot be, have, or do. As an adult I will hold myself accountable to set the goals to bring these visions to pass.
I will continue to keep a dream list and update it as I have these visions of the future. If I am going to work hard in the present anyway, I am either going to keep my head down and miss the opportunities or have it up seeing where I am going, letting the opportunities drive me forward so I can grab onto their promise.
Dream everyday as a CHILD, and take action steps as an ADULT.
Joshua Andrus
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Wednesday, July 29, 2009
10,000 Hours
Have you put in your 10,000 hours yet?
So many people start something. A business, a hobbie, a skill. They can measure in the begining the growth of where they were when they began but the growth does not happen as rapidly as when they went from bad to noticibly better.
Most people give up and quit. . .
Tragic. There will always be great growth in the begining of anything you do in life. You can always go from bad to better. It may even seem you are good. The transition from bad to good takes only interest.
Good doesn't get noticed, Great does. The transition from good to great takes more then interest it takes commitment.
There needs to be commitment to the process. It has been said that the atheletes we recognize today are being recognized for their successes on stage as result of many private failures. How many?
Well the average amount of time in the process is 10,000 hours. Is this going take committment? 10,000 hours?
To put this number into perspective 10,000 hours at 40 hours a week will be 5 years. 5 years of committed activity. This is only a part of the commitment. . .
The second part of the committment is the VISION. How much passion do you really have for the end result.
Here is the relationship of the 10,000 hours-
You will need a vision for what you want life to look like 5 years from now, then you will need the the pathway to achieve this, these are the goals, then you will need the activities that make your ordinary activities extra-ordinary. These activities are the 10,000 hours.
Reviewing from today forward- commit the hours of activity that will achieve the goals that will manifest the vision.
If the activities look flat at any time adjust the vision to be more focused then adjust the goals, then burrow on the belief of the vision to get excited about the activity.
Take a dream building workshop, too many people stop dreaming at age 18 and this muscle needs some serious conditioning.
Joshua Andrus
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blast off, Bring Value Institute, facebook, google, myspace, prepaid legal
So many people start something. A business, a hobbie, a skill. They can measure in the begining the growth of where they were when they began but the growth does not happen as rapidly as when they went from bad to noticibly better.
Most people give up and quit. . .
Tragic. There will always be great growth in the begining of anything you do in life. You can always go from bad to better. It may even seem you are good. The transition from bad to good takes only interest.
Good doesn't get noticed, Great does. The transition from good to great takes more then interest it takes commitment.
There needs to be commitment to the process. It has been said that the atheletes we recognize today are being recognized for their successes on stage as result of many private failures. How many?
Well the average amount of time in the process is 10,000 hours. Is this going take committment? 10,000 hours?
To put this number into perspective 10,000 hours at 40 hours a week will be 5 years. 5 years of committed activity. This is only a part of the commitment. . .
The second part of the committment is the VISION. How much passion do you really have for the end result.
Here is the relationship of the 10,000 hours-
You will need a vision for what you want life to look like 5 years from now, then you will need the the pathway to achieve this, these are the goals, then you will need the activities that make your ordinary activities extra-ordinary. These activities are the 10,000 hours.
Reviewing from today forward- commit the hours of activity that will achieve the goals that will manifest the vision.
If the activities look flat at any time adjust the vision to be more focused then adjust the goals, then burrow on the belief of the vision to get excited about the activity.
Take a dream building workshop, too many people stop dreaming at age 18 and this muscle needs some serious conditioning.
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
blast off, Bring Value Institute, facebook, google, myspace, prepaid legal
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
"Oook aaaa laacckkka miccccckkkaa!!!!!"
When you are in a bad mood, have you ever wondered why you can become more and more negative?
You feel more and more awful then you continue adding a continuous stream of thoughts that will make cause yourself to feel deeply upset?
The mind is an amazing thing. It will start down a path and continue on that same path until it is interrupted.
Awareness is amazing. You could mess up your day without it, or you can interrupt and set your mind on a different path as soon as you realize you are heading for what I like to refer to the "Funk".
Have you ever been in a fight with your friend or spouse. It seems things are escalating they are getting more and more intense. The forced words are now yells.
This is where the ultimate proof of the amazing power of awareness and distraction can come in. This weekend my mentor Mr. Mark Michaud was teaching us what to do in the event you feel more and more upset and the communication has become more about who is right and who is wrong.
He says give it a big "Oook aaaa laacckkka miccccckkkaa!!!!!". What in the world am I talking about here? Has this writer gone completely nuts!.
Here is the deal. Come up with a funny phrase that you can say. This should distract you from your position of opposition, but more importantly it will get your mind off of the same destructive path that it has carved into you brain over time through spaced repetition. It puts a temporary road block, then it will cause your mind to jump into a different place.
The best part about this technique. . . You are making a conscious decision to not take yourself so serious, in fact you might even laugh, and when your spouse knows they won the argument because their partner has taken the "crazy" card then they may even calm down and laugh too.
This is my silly word, get your own. Use it with when you talk to yourself too------- You may not realize this but you talk to your self over 50,000 times in the course of a day!!! More then with any other person------- This same technique can prevent your inner conversations from going down hill in a hurry as well.
Self Talk is a great subject for another day though. . .
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
blast off, Bring Value Institute, facebook, google, myspace, prepaid legal
You feel more and more awful then you continue adding a continuous stream of thoughts that will make cause yourself to feel deeply upset?
The mind is an amazing thing. It will start down a path and continue on that same path until it is interrupted.
Awareness is amazing. You could mess up your day without it, or you can interrupt and set your mind on a different path as soon as you realize you are heading for what I like to refer to the "Funk".
Have you ever been in a fight with your friend or spouse. It seems things are escalating they are getting more and more intense. The forced words are now yells.
This is where the ultimate proof of the amazing power of awareness and distraction can come in. This weekend my mentor Mr. Mark Michaud was teaching us what to do in the event you feel more and more upset and the communication has become more about who is right and who is wrong.
He says give it a big "Oook aaaa laacckkka miccccckkkaa!!!!!". What in the world am I talking about here? Has this writer gone completely nuts!.
Here is the deal. Come up with a funny phrase that you can say. This should distract you from your position of opposition, but more importantly it will get your mind off of the same destructive path that it has carved into you brain over time through spaced repetition. It puts a temporary road block, then it will cause your mind to jump into a different place.
The best part about this technique. . . You are making a conscious decision to not take yourself so serious, in fact you might even laugh, and when your spouse knows they won the argument because their partner has taken the "crazy" card then they may even calm down and laugh too.
This is my silly word, get your own. Use it with when you talk to yourself too------- You may not realize this but you talk to your self over 50,000 times in the course of a day!!! More then with any other person------- This same technique can prevent your inner conversations from going down hill in a hurry as well.
Self Talk is a great subject for another day though. . .
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
blast off, Bring Value Institute, facebook, google, myspace, prepaid legal
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
Clear In Order to Create
Know what you want.
There is no way to create unless you know what you want first. Stephen Covey calls this "Begin with the End in mind".
Here is a quick question. Two people having the means and opportunity to purchase. One has an idea of the next car they want to purchase, the other knows they want a new car, but has no idea what they want.
Who gets the car first?
This is a trick question. The second one is likely to get the care first. The problem is that this may not be "THE" car. Will the second individual even realize "THE" car if they had it. Not likely.
Your subconscious mind will go to work with the directions that you give it. If I know the car I am looking for, without me knowing it my other senses will begin seeing more and more of the "THE" car. This sounds too good to be true or unrealistic. Let me prove how realistic this is.
You may have experienced this already. When you purchased your last vehicle, immediately wasn't there more of the same vehicle that you just purchased on the road. This is because you brought from your subconscious an awareness due to your purchase.
You can now use this to your advantage. You can become clear on what you want first, crystal clear and then you will see more of the same vehicle ahead of time. This will allow you to have a choice it will be yours for the choosing and negotiation.
If this seems superficial, sorry, I don't believe that if you are going to spend money on a vehicle you should settle on something that you don't like.
What do you want? That depends a great deal on your values.
Settling in life is a shame. When you seek out what you want you can and should manifest it. If the thought and desire has been sought out in your heart and aligns with your personal values.
Fast pace and quick fix I want it now mentality will be an obstacle in this approach. This is fair warning.
Another obstacle is the distraction of other things that you may want. That is why dream boards are so powerful. I think dream boards are misunderstood:
I personally would not put the whole fleet of luxury cars on your dream board if for example you own a "hoopty". It will be discouraging. Place one car first, then build from there. This is not say don't aim for the stars, it is to say distraction of focusing on too much can happen.
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
blast off, Bring Value Institute, facebook, google, myspace, prepaid legal
There is no way to create unless you know what you want first. Stephen Covey calls this "Begin with the End in mind".
Here is a quick question. Two people having the means and opportunity to purchase. One has an idea of the next car they want to purchase, the other knows they want a new car, but has no idea what they want.
Who gets the car first?
This is a trick question. The second one is likely to get the care first. The problem is that this may not be "THE" car. Will the second individual even realize "THE" car if they had it. Not likely.
Your subconscious mind will go to work with the directions that you give it. If I know the car I am looking for, without me knowing it my other senses will begin seeing more and more of the "THE" car. This sounds too good to be true or unrealistic. Let me prove how realistic this is.
You may have experienced this already. When you purchased your last vehicle, immediately wasn't there more of the same vehicle that you just purchased on the road. This is because you brought from your subconscious an awareness due to your purchase.
You can now use this to your advantage. You can become clear on what you want first, crystal clear and then you will see more of the same vehicle ahead of time. This will allow you to have a choice it will be yours for the choosing and negotiation.
If this seems superficial, sorry, I don't believe that if you are going to spend money on a vehicle you should settle on something that you don't like.
What do you want? That depends a great deal on your values.
Settling in life is a shame. When you seek out what you want you can and should manifest it. If the thought and desire has been sought out in your heart and aligns with your personal values.
Fast pace and quick fix I want it now mentality will be an obstacle in this approach. This is fair warning.
Another obstacle is the distraction of other things that you may want. That is why dream boards are so powerful. I think dream boards are misunderstood:
I personally would not put the whole fleet of luxury cars on your dream board if for example you own a "hoopty". It will be discouraging. Place one car first, then build from there. This is not say don't aim for the stars, it is to say distraction of focusing on too much can happen.
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
blast off, Bring Value Institute, facebook, google, myspace, prepaid legal
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Lesson From the Cheshire Cat
In Alice's Adventure in Wonderland the Cheshire Cat teaches one of the most important lessons in lifestyle in the space of about 10 seconds.
"Would you tell me please which way I ought to go from here?"
"That depends a good deal on where you want to get to" said the Cat.
"I don't much care where. . ."
"Then it doesn't matter which way you go," said the Cat.
Lifestyle- take a picture, either still fram description or literal if applicable. Your lifestyle is a result of your choices up until this point.
Are you "where" you want to be?
Did you, like Alice choose to not define this ahead of time?
Empower yourself for change. Go through your house, go through your vehicle, go through your conversations of others, go through your time you spend, go through your associations, go through your library. Be an observer of these things, non-judgemental, just observing. Take a snapshot.
You can decide today what your lifestyle is. You can answer the Cat tommorow where you want each of these areas to be. It is all a choice.
The biggest lesson of the Cheshire Cat is if you don't have a clear direction for any of the areas of life you are just blown by the winds of circumstance. This hardly seems productive to me, but then you just may enjoy living like Alice who had to wait for crisis in order to make changes.
Joshua Andrus
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Monday, July 20, 2009
Did I Choose Right?
This is a day and age that so many people are changing their careers. It happens to be out of choice for some, and for others it is forced. The unemployment will reach 11% very soon.
It is a great time in our nation's history, and it is a difficult time. The question today to ponder with so many shifts in careers today. . .
Did I choose the right one for me?
Paul J. Meyer has a great way to answer this: "True indicators that a person choose the right career are a burning fervor, a driving desire, a sense of mission, and a purpose."
The greats will lead the fearful through this time. The way to become great is to assess in the are I work am I finding purpose in my mission, and driving with intensity that only comes from a white hot burning desire.
The solution if this is not the case is also the enhancement. . .
Here is the deal. Right now if you are simply good at your career of choice and you sense that it has the potential to be the "RIGHT" path. You need to spend some time finding out why you are not great.
When you ask why am I good and not great? Amazing things will occur. This question so differs from the norm. The mediocre blaming of the economy, the scarcity that you will be rewarded with action steps and recognize them immediately.
This is a great activity to do weekly at least and daily if necessary-
1) Take time to be in a quiet place
2) Get centered in the way you have learned in your life to
3) Ask yourself if I could make this week/tomorrow great what would I do
4) Spend some time dreaming in color about actions and results that would occur
5) Search out in your mind what your emotions are, what your purpose would be, who would be involved
6) Spend some time afterwards writing down your activities, attitudes, and purpose for the next day.
So many people are focused by outside of themself factors the time is so ripe to take charge of your life. The world will clear a path for a leader that lives on purpose.
Joshua Andrus
www.hiresite.info
It is a great time in our nation's history, and it is a difficult time. The question today to ponder with so many shifts in careers today. . .
Did I choose the right one for me?
Paul J. Meyer has a great way to answer this: "True indicators that a person choose the right career are a burning fervor, a driving desire, a sense of mission, and a purpose."
The greats will lead the fearful through this time. The way to become great is to assess in the are I work am I finding purpose in my mission, and driving with intensity that only comes from a white hot burning desire.
The solution if this is not the case is also the enhancement. . .
Here is the deal. Right now if you are simply good at your career of choice and you sense that it has the potential to be the "RIGHT" path. You need to spend some time finding out why you are not great.
When you ask why am I good and not great? Amazing things will occur. This question so differs from the norm. The mediocre blaming of the economy, the scarcity that you will be rewarded with action steps and recognize them immediately.
This is a great activity to do weekly at least and daily if necessary-
1) Take time to be in a quiet place
2) Get centered in the way you have learned in your life to
3) Ask yourself if I could make this week/tomorrow great what would I do
4) Spend some time dreaming in color about actions and results that would occur
5) Search out in your mind what your emotions are, what your purpose would be, who would be involved
6) Spend some time afterwards writing down your activities, attitudes, and purpose for the next day.
So many people are focused by outside of themself factors the time is so ripe to take charge of your life. The world will clear a path for a leader that lives on purpose.
Joshua Andrus
www.hiresite.info
Friday, July 17, 2009
Strength Vs. Weakness Debate
In the field of personal development, organization consultation. There is a debate that exists.
The debate is after I gain awareness of my strengths vs my weaknesses which one do I focus on?
The argument that you are held back by your weaknesses is a valid one, however think for a minute. If you were to take your weaknesses and spend a large amount of your time energy and resources on them. . .
Could you ever become great in your weaknesses?
Would you ever desire to stay with them for long enough to become great?
How long would it be, before your strengths became weaker because of the amount of time outside of them?
No one will drive from miles around to watch someone who has taken a weakness and raised it to mediocrity.
This is why you have teams in Corporate America. If you are aware of your weaknesses you surround yourself with people who do that area better in that area then you are. For early leaders this is a difficult thing because it pulls on insecurity, for established leaders it is about change.
When strengths are where the majority of the focus comes then the results of greatness can be attained. It is when you hear the phrase "play to your strength".
If it is necessary to go towards the weakness get a third party involve and brainstorm how you can use your strengths to lift your weaknesses.
If you are unaware of what you are good at that you could be great at. If awareness is your weakness, GET HELP FAST!!!
Joshua Andrus
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The debate is after I gain awareness of my strengths vs my weaknesses which one do I focus on?
The argument that you are held back by your weaknesses is a valid one, however think for a minute. If you were to take your weaknesses and spend a large amount of your time energy and resources on them. . .
Could you ever become great in your weaknesses?
Would you ever desire to stay with them for long enough to become great?
How long would it be, before your strengths became weaker because of the amount of time outside of them?
No one will drive from miles around to watch someone who has taken a weakness and raised it to mediocrity.
This is why you have teams in Corporate America. If you are aware of your weaknesses you surround yourself with people who do that area better in that area then you are. For early leaders this is a difficult thing because it pulls on insecurity, for established leaders it is about change.
When strengths are where the majority of the focus comes then the results of greatness can be attained. It is when you hear the phrase "play to your strength".
If it is necessary to go towards the weakness get a third party involve and brainstorm how you can use your strengths to lift your weaknesses.
If you are unaware of what you are good at that you could be great at. If awareness is your weakness, GET HELP FAST!!!
Joshua Andrus
www.hiresite.info
Monday, July 13, 2009
Passion or Poison
There are times when what you do can either be on the side of your Passion or be on the side of Poison-slowly killing off your vitality.
Find out where you are-
When you are working on the things in your life are you enjoying it?
Do the tasks seem more and more undesirable?
When you have the chance to relax or to get deeper in your journey to achieve more do you choose to relax?
Do you feel more guilty motivated then energy motivated?
When their is a rut that keeps you on answering these questions unhealthily it is because you have lost allignment with what is most important to you. You may have a vision defficiency of not seeing the future from the present. A discouragement issue of not seeing the future throught the clouds of past failures. Or an allignment problem where your priorities have become out of order causing energy drains in your routine.
There is one thing for certain in your assessment here. The way back to your purpose is through your passion. There is no better way to find the energy to move forward out of rut then clearly defining your passion and allowing yourself to live in it.
The opposite of passion is doing something you don't like. There is nothing worst then doing what you dislike. This will cause an erosion of integrity as you look for shortcuts, it will cause energy drains as your attitude and expectency become negative, and it is a passion killer.
This is not to say you aren't greatful for what your doing to create a living even if it is not what you would like to do. It is not only foolish to jump out of the airplane of your current job/career without a parchute of another means of living. It is to say spend the time daily to see that your passion and purpose is advanced as well.
If your job feels like a means to an end your doomed to the end. If your job, on the other hand feels like a vehicle to something greater as you invest in your purpose and personal growth then your career imediately can be something you are greatful for.
Find ways to expand your dreams, clarify your vision, and follow your passion now. Like today, choose something today that you will do that re-alligns you with your purpose or passion.
Joshua Andrus
www.hiresite.info
Find out where you are-
When you are working on the things in your life are you enjoying it?
Do the tasks seem more and more undesirable?
When you have the chance to relax or to get deeper in your journey to achieve more do you choose to relax?
Do you feel more guilty motivated then energy motivated?
When their is a rut that keeps you on answering these questions unhealthily it is because you have lost allignment with what is most important to you. You may have a vision defficiency of not seeing the future from the present. A discouragement issue of not seeing the future throught the clouds of past failures. Or an allignment problem where your priorities have become out of order causing energy drains in your routine.
There is one thing for certain in your assessment here. The way back to your purpose is through your passion. There is no better way to find the energy to move forward out of rut then clearly defining your passion and allowing yourself to live in it.
The opposite of passion is doing something you don't like. There is nothing worst then doing what you dislike. This will cause an erosion of integrity as you look for shortcuts, it will cause energy drains as your attitude and expectency become negative, and it is a passion killer.
This is not to say you aren't greatful for what your doing to create a living even if it is not what you would like to do. It is not only foolish to jump out of the airplane of your current job/career without a parchute of another means of living. It is to say spend the time daily to see that your passion and purpose is advanced as well.
If your job feels like a means to an end your doomed to the end. If your job, on the other hand feels like a vehicle to something greater as you invest in your purpose and personal growth then your career imediately can be something you are greatful for.
Find ways to expand your dreams, clarify your vision, and follow your passion now. Like today, choose something today that you will do that re-alligns you with your purpose or passion.
Joshua Andrus
www.hiresite.info
Friday, July 10, 2009
I Like Myself, I Like Myself, I Like Myself
You will never be able to give the world more caring than you have for yourself.
I work with clients all the time who say I am not worth it, I don't deserve it, I will do for others and deprive myself. All these thoughts they stay stuck in their comfort zones with insane rationalizations like: "I am being unselfish, I worry about others first," or misunderstanding "love others before you love yourself".
These are all lies. I have found long term if a person is putting others needs above their own first they have to have certain of their needs fulfilled if it is truly genuine. Most of the time they do it because they are trying to fill a need that they are not speaking to.
If a person is truly not loving of them self they are putting others first in order to gain validation, a feeling of worth through the other individual. This still seems pretty Innocent at first. I am here to be a little in your face on this point. The motive becomes more and more unhealthy when the doer has places their own self worth in the other persons hand. They cannot feel good unless the other person feels good about them. Huge problem here. This can be a vicious sick cycle that never resolves, people are not concerned enough to fill your self worth meter, they cannot be, you cannot be, it won't happen.
This is why your self worth cannot come from without, but instead from within.
I like myself, I enjoy saying this today. I have not always been able to shout this from the roof top. I know today I don't give another person in my life permission to like me unless I like me first. I know that I don't genuinely like another or even love another unless I love from within first.
Don't let the world tell you lies, love yourself, love everything about you, if you cannot love your entire self, choose one thing you can love about yourself and focus on it until you see another thing.
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
blast off, Bring Value Institute, facebook, google, myspace, prepaid legal
I work with clients all the time who say I am not worth it, I don't deserve it, I will do for others and deprive myself. All these thoughts they stay stuck in their comfort zones with insane rationalizations like: "I am being unselfish, I worry about others first," or misunderstanding "love others before you love yourself".
These are all lies. I have found long term if a person is putting others needs above their own first they have to have certain of their needs fulfilled if it is truly genuine. Most of the time they do it because they are trying to fill a need that they are not speaking to.
If a person is truly not loving of them self they are putting others first in order to gain validation, a feeling of worth through the other individual. This still seems pretty Innocent at first. I am here to be a little in your face on this point. The motive becomes more and more unhealthy when the doer has places their own self worth in the other persons hand. They cannot feel good unless the other person feels good about them. Huge problem here. This can be a vicious sick cycle that never resolves, people are not concerned enough to fill your self worth meter, they cannot be, you cannot be, it won't happen.
This is why your self worth cannot come from without, but instead from within.
I like myself, I enjoy saying this today. I have not always been able to shout this from the roof top. I know today I don't give another person in my life permission to like me unless I like me first. I know that I don't genuinely like another or even love another unless I love from within first.
Don't let the world tell you lies, love yourself, love everything about you, if you cannot love your entire self, choose one thing you can love about yourself and focus on it until you see another thing.
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
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Thursday, July 9, 2009
Wait To Plan, Plan To Wait
There is a catchy phrase tossed around in goal setting seminars fail to plan, plan to fail. I want to back up a little further and re-phrase it with "Wait to Plan, Plan to Wait".
Nothing can take from the potency of one's leadership more then having a lack of vision. Vision comes from imagination and careful planning. The more crystallized the destination the more sure-footed the journey, the more people the leader can lead.
This is not foreign for anyone reading this. In fact let me give you an example:
Let's say you are planning a TEAM RETREAT in month. Two leaders one who hasn't planned. One who has. You decide who you would follow:
The LEADER WHO PLANNED, has a vision of the future:
I'm going to have 100 people I am mentoring on my team at the event: I better start promoting- "(name), You got a minute?"
"Did you hear?"
"Imagine, if you could, what it would take to fly around the country and visit the top 12 leaders in their city, in their marketplace, coordinate your visit so that you catch them exactly the day they are scheduled to train, hang out after the training and ask them a handful of questions. What kind of a cost would that have?"
"It would be worth the thousands of dollars invested, right? Well if you could afford this it would take some valuable time as well right?"
"What if I told you that from the 23rd of July through the 25th of July you could drive right up the road to Palm Springs, stay at a resort hotel, have all the 12 leaders you would have interviewed fly in to the resort, not only will they be ready to train, but also ready to and willing in a casual resort atmosphere to answer your questions maybe even poolside."
"This event is so impressive that leaders who are not even booked to train are flying in all across the Nation and Canada to take notes, it is estimated over 50 people making over 6 figures a year from home will be there. Then looking at cost and compression of time frames you can do this all for under $500 and in under a 72 hour time period. I even have a special room rate for you and the people you are mentoring."
"On July 23-26 in Palm Springs this event will take your personal development journey miles further then anything you could possibly do this summer. "
Contrast LEADER WHO WAITED TO PLAN, whose destination is not crystallized, whose vision is not clear:
I don't know if I will get my hotel room yet, the ticket only cost 95 dollars last month, the ticket now costs 135 and I don't get paid til Friday. Let me call up my team and see if they are going?
"Dave, how's it going, are you going to Palm Springs in a month?"
Who would you follow? Who do you think will need to wait for their goals to manifest?
Joshua Andrus
www.hiresite.info
Nothing can take from the potency of one's leadership more then having a lack of vision. Vision comes from imagination and careful planning. The more crystallized the destination the more sure-footed the journey, the more people the leader can lead.
This is not foreign for anyone reading this. In fact let me give you an example:
Let's say you are planning a TEAM RETREAT in month. Two leaders one who hasn't planned. One who has. You decide who you would follow:
The LEADER WHO PLANNED, has a vision of the future:
I'm going to have 100 people I am mentoring on my team at the event: I better start promoting- "(name), You got a minute?"
"Did you hear?"
"Imagine, if you could, what it would take to fly around the country and visit the top 12 leaders in their city, in their marketplace, coordinate your visit so that you catch them exactly the day they are scheduled to train, hang out after the training and ask them a handful of questions. What kind of a cost would that have?"
"It would be worth the thousands of dollars invested, right? Well if you could afford this it would take some valuable time as well right?"
"What if I told you that from the 23rd of July through the 25th of July you could drive right up the road to Palm Springs, stay at a resort hotel, have all the 12 leaders you would have interviewed fly in to the resort, not only will they be ready to train, but also ready to and willing in a casual resort atmosphere to answer your questions maybe even poolside."
"This event is so impressive that leaders who are not even booked to train are flying in all across the Nation and Canada to take notes, it is estimated over 50 people making over 6 figures a year from home will be there. Then looking at cost and compression of time frames you can do this all for under $500 and in under a 72 hour time period. I even have a special room rate for you and the people you are mentoring."
"On July 23-26 in Palm Springs this event will take your personal development journey miles further then anything you could possibly do this summer. "
Contrast LEADER WHO WAITED TO PLAN, whose destination is not crystallized, whose vision is not clear:
I don't know if I will get my hotel room yet, the ticket only cost 95 dollars last month, the ticket now costs 135 and I don't get paid til Friday. Let me call up my team and see if they are going?
"Dave, how's it going, are you going to Palm Springs in a month?"
Who would you follow? Who do you think will need to wait for their goals to manifest?
Joshua Andrus
www.hiresite.info
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Who Defines Me
Who Defines Me?
Most people would very rapidly decide I define me. I have experienced this to not be the truth for the majority of people.
The fact is that there is an ideal self that most of us visit a lot less often then the real self that we are currently manifesting.
When I am working with a client who has manifested destroyed relationships, jail, brig, etc. the majority of the time at the heart of this is a poor self image. The quote from some clients is "I am a screw up". This is shame, or prior guilt and other-imposed definition of oneself.
Shame kills the same way affirmation gives hope to new life.
I have often said that "You will never rise above the definition of what you hold for yourself". This is proven with a principle in Psychology called Self-Fulfilling Prophesy.
In my own words and experience. Self-Fulfilling Prophesy negatively manifest for most people in this manner: I have a belief about myself in a situation. This belief may have validity it may not. To me it is true. I now seek out clues of my environment, interactions to make this belief true. When I find a clue that "proves" my definition I hold to it as truth and prove the initial belief with more validity.
What is holding you back then. Who defines you. Taking ownership of who defines you will either promote you or expose you. If I believe that today I am great husband, I will work toward manifesting and behaving in a way that is kind and loving with my wife, I will not do so for validation of the truth from her as a codependent individual would. I will do it as a confirmation of the belief I hold for myself. With practice my love grows as a husband and this definition gets firmer in my being as I manifest it outwardly.
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
Most people would very rapidly decide I define me. I have experienced this to not be the truth for the majority of people.
The fact is that there is an ideal self that most of us visit a lot less often then the real self that we are currently manifesting.
When I am working with a client who has manifested destroyed relationships, jail, brig, etc. the majority of the time at the heart of this is a poor self image. The quote from some clients is "I am a screw up". This is shame, or prior guilt and other-imposed definition of oneself.
Shame kills the same way affirmation gives hope to new life.
I have often said that "You will never rise above the definition of what you hold for yourself". This is proven with a principle in Psychology called Self-Fulfilling Prophesy.
In my own words and experience. Self-Fulfilling Prophesy negatively manifest for most people in this manner: I have a belief about myself in a situation. This belief may have validity it may not. To me it is true. I now seek out clues of my environment, interactions to make this belief true. When I find a clue that "proves" my definition I hold to it as truth and prove the initial belief with more validity.
What is holding you back then. Who defines you. Taking ownership of who defines you will either promote you or expose you. If I believe that today I am great husband, I will work toward manifesting and behaving in a way that is kind and loving with my wife, I will not do so for validation of the truth from her as a codependent individual would. I will do it as a confirmation of the belief I hold for myself. With practice my love grows as a husband and this definition gets firmer in my being as I manifest it outwardly.
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
Sunday, July 5, 2009
Thursday, July 2, 2009
3 Types of People (Inspired by Les Brown)
I watched a clip by Les Brown yesterday that was amazing. Success Magazine has an amazing promo CD/DVD. I had heard Mr. Brown was great but my studies had been limited on his seminars.
There are 3 types of people 1)those who are successful, 2)those who are not (basically give up and become victims) and those who have not arrived, 3)they have achieved success at a level that many people would consider great, but inside they know that they are searching to become more.
These are they who sit in seminars thirsting for more pieces of the puzzle of the person they strive to become. . .
They set and achieve goals but know there is still more music left in them to sing. . .
They serve and are about a great work but know they can create more to give back. . .
When they sit down to take notes they sense a higher self sits with them and they look for ways to reach higher and actualize. . .
These are the greats, these are the great potentials waiting to bring the world the value that they have been uniquely gifted with.
It is strange that even learning has a zone, an area of sweetness when what I learn has a unifying connecting thread, and I know that what I am learning is on a more efficient level.
As I listened to a leadership training by John C. Maxwell the previous night I realized there are 3 types of learners as well, 1)those who are ignorant, they don't know what they don't know, 2)those who are learn-ed, they know it already, and 3)those who are on a continuous path of learning. They thirst for more knowledge and are humble enough to keep looking. I believe there is a tie in.
This is key for those who feel less then those who have "arrived". For those who feel uncomfortable about approaching the "great" ones. . .
Remember-
There really are only 3 learners and 3 people. Those who are ignorant, those who are learned or have arrived (falsely) and are not on the same journey and are not approachable anyway. Those who are still in the pursuit and on the purpose of "pouring into" others and adding value. The courage should come from the perspective that if they are still on the journey of learning they are still on the journey of service.
How is all this related. When you have the opportunity to ask someone who is where you want to go in the future, who is manifesting in the present what you want to in the future, where you are drawn to:
-Have some questions in mind and ask with confidence. An actualized person's favorite subject is there life purpose. It is there passion, there is invaluable amounts of information and vision provoking "nuggets" that can help guide your path.
-Interview and once a month take someone great out to eat. Everyone needs to eat.
-Just a warning, check your ego at the door, if you are too busy talking about what you've done and believe then you might miss invaluable time learning. Not that big of a deal, remember you have two ears one mouth keep this ratio in mind as you go forward.
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
There are 3 types of people 1)those who are successful, 2)those who are not (basically give up and become victims) and those who have not arrived, 3)they have achieved success at a level that many people would consider great, but inside they know that they are searching to become more.
These are they who sit in seminars thirsting for more pieces of the puzzle of the person they strive to become. . .
They set and achieve goals but know there is still more music left in them to sing. . .
They serve and are about a great work but know they can create more to give back. . .
When they sit down to take notes they sense a higher self sits with them and they look for ways to reach higher and actualize. . .
These are the greats, these are the great potentials waiting to bring the world the value that they have been uniquely gifted with.
It is strange that even learning has a zone, an area of sweetness when what I learn has a unifying connecting thread, and I know that what I am learning is on a more efficient level.
As I listened to a leadership training by John C. Maxwell the previous night I realized there are 3 types of learners as well, 1)those who are ignorant, they don't know what they don't know, 2)those who are learn-ed, they know it already, and 3)those who are on a continuous path of learning. They thirst for more knowledge and are humble enough to keep looking. I believe there is a tie in.
This is key for those who feel less then those who have "arrived". For those who feel uncomfortable about approaching the "great" ones. . .
Remember-
There really are only 3 learners and 3 people. Those who are ignorant, those who are learned or have arrived (falsely) and are not on the same journey and are not approachable anyway. Those who are still in the pursuit and on the purpose of "pouring into" others and adding value. The courage should come from the perspective that if they are still on the journey of learning they are still on the journey of service.
How is all this related. When you have the opportunity to ask someone who is where you want to go in the future, who is manifesting in the present what you want to in the future, where you are drawn to:
-Have some questions in mind and ask with confidence. An actualized person's favorite subject is there life purpose. It is there passion, there is invaluable amounts of information and vision provoking "nuggets" that can help guide your path.
-Interview and once a month take someone great out to eat. Everyone needs to eat.
-Just a warning, check your ego at the door, if you are too busy talking about what you've done and believe then you might miss invaluable time learning. Not that big of a deal, remember you have two ears one mouth keep this ratio in mind as you go forward.
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
"But You Promised"
"I Promise" words rarely uttered today.
I don't see enough written or taught regarding promises. I have found in general most people are very reluctant to say: "I promise". It is usually I will try, or I will do my best to, or if I can, but rarely the very simple "I promise".
I began meditating as to why this might be. . .
It was amazing the strength of someones word in ancient times. If, for example you were captured in battle, and mercy was granted, you could take an oath that you would lay down your weapon and this would be sufficient.
It would not matter how wicked your deeds were at the time you entered into an oath or covenant your word was your bond.
I believe we don't say "I Promise" regularly is due to fear and insecurity. It could come from past failures to keep your word. It could be a lack of commitment.
I am researching into the power of the PROMISE today. I know for me PROMISES are powerful. They go beyond just saying I am going to do something. I believe if I promise something I will deliver or die trying. Although this seems dramatic it is a page out of ancient history where if an oath was taken and not upheld death was at times a consequence.
I think the parents can relate to kids that use the strength of promises as leverage. If you are like me, my kids have said almost as early as they began talking "but you promised" even if this was not the case. I believe that this is such a powerful concept it can truly bring an adult to their knees before a three year old.
There is something so potent about the promise, it feels inside like my reputation, my integrity, and my relationships can hinge on a verbal contract that is a promise. I believe this to be a great thing, a way to break out of complacent comfort zones. I believe in making more promises in life.
I can remember while on active duty I picked up the habit of nicotine. It did not serve me well, I could feel its' damaging effects on me in all 8 areas of my life. When I got out of the service I tried many different solutions to this powerful addiction. When I was finally able to quit with the assistance of a program, one of the key elements of this program was a contract. This contract wasn't any contract it was a promise I made with God that I would not smoke again. At the time I was working with Disabled Veterans at a facility, The area that tobacco was used was right outside my office door. I placed that contract right on the back of my door in plain sight so that I could see it every time I walked out into the cloud smoke. There were certain days that I know it was only by virtue of this promise I didn't smoke. I haven't returned to smoking since making that contract. It has been over 5 years now and I have seen so many rich blessings as a result of this commitment and promise.
I am at a time in my life when I desire to stretch my abilities to grow my capacity in areas such as love, service, productivity, and the value I bring. I believe this takes commitment to the process and I know better way then to enter into agreements and follow through.
Today I am challenging myself to look for opportunities to make promises.
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
I don't see enough written or taught regarding promises. I have found in general most people are very reluctant to say: "I promise". It is usually I will try, or I will do my best to, or if I can, but rarely the very simple "I promise".
I began meditating as to why this might be. . .
It was amazing the strength of someones word in ancient times. If, for example you were captured in battle, and mercy was granted, you could take an oath that you would lay down your weapon and this would be sufficient.
It would not matter how wicked your deeds were at the time you entered into an oath or covenant your word was your bond.
I believe we don't say "I Promise" regularly is due to fear and insecurity. It could come from past failures to keep your word. It could be a lack of commitment.
I am researching into the power of the PROMISE today. I know for me PROMISES are powerful. They go beyond just saying I am going to do something. I believe if I promise something I will deliver or die trying. Although this seems dramatic it is a page out of ancient history where if an oath was taken and not upheld death was at times a consequence.
I think the parents can relate to kids that use the strength of promises as leverage. If you are like me, my kids have said almost as early as they began talking "but you promised" even if this was not the case. I believe that this is such a powerful concept it can truly bring an adult to their knees before a three year old.
There is something so potent about the promise, it feels inside like my reputation, my integrity, and my relationships can hinge on a verbal contract that is a promise. I believe this to be a great thing, a way to break out of complacent comfort zones. I believe in making more promises in life.
I can remember while on active duty I picked up the habit of nicotine. It did not serve me well, I could feel its' damaging effects on me in all 8 areas of my life. When I got out of the service I tried many different solutions to this powerful addiction. When I was finally able to quit with the assistance of a program, one of the key elements of this program was a contract. This contract wasn't any contract it was a promise I made with God that I would not smoke again. At the time I was working with Disabled Veterans at a facility, The area that tobacco was used was right outside my office door. I placed that contract right on the back of my door in plain sight so that I could see it every time I walked out into the cloud smoke. There were certain days that I know it was only by virtue of this promise I didn't smoke. I haven't returned to smoking since making that contract. It has been over 5 years now and I have seen so many rich blessings as a result of this commitment and promise.
I am at a time in my life when I desire to stretch my abilities to grow my capacity in areas such as love, service, productivity, and the value I bring. I believe this takes commitment to the process and I know better way then to enter into agreements and follow through.
Today I am challenging myself to look for opportunities to make promises.
Joshua Andrus
http://www.hiresite.info/
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