Value

I remember teaching a class once and asking what people think of when they hear the word value? The responses were on point so I will list a few of them here. Value- what you hold as important, standards, your own esteem, your belief systems, moral code, principles to live by. I am going to stop here but I believe that the participants really had the right idea. Let's look at life without values, or with a skewed decaying value system.

I don't know a person who does not feel the urge to feel valued, or important. This is a natural drive of everyone. It is a driving factor that allows people to feel needed. To esteem someone as valuable and to treat them with this esteem can make you a great deal of friends, take this esteem away and you may make an enemy from the precieved disrespect. If you were to ask some of the most hardened criminal enough questions about their actions, at the heart of the calculated crimes would be the urge to feel important.

Also take an external internal value. If you believe in honesty and integrity and you act dishonestly you have a dilema Psychologists like to call cognitive dissonance. In otherwords you have acted outside of your beliefs. Values are so ingrained that one who did act dishonestly may even be accused of acting out of "character". Ultimately the reality is that if you act outside of your value system you will either have to lie- ration-lize rationalize your actions, or you will have to face up to the consequences of acting outside of your value system. One of the major consequences is the taking down of the way you may even esteem yoursel.

Take some time and write down your values. This are guidlines to gauge how you are performing in life. Share these values with another individual. Don't overwhelm yourself with comparing yourself to the values, there has only ever been one perfect person after all. Unstead use the values you've listed as another factor when weighing decisions in life.

I will give an example. Let's say you value attention. Many people if they get their ego out of the way can look at this one and say you know what I do like attention, it is a value that drives me. The individual who values attention probably should not be a Forest Ranger. The individual who values attention should work with people, should work in a high visibility setting such as a stage, a field, a classroom setting. This is a value. This is not all though. It should take some exploration for the individual to feel good inside about this value of why is it I value_____. This will allow more genuine values and the why that drives them to appear. This will also make the actions taken to live within the values done with more confidence.

I will tell you in closing if a person values money and looks at the reasons why this will even do away with money guilt. Money guilt is one of the largest obstactles preventing people from attaining the wealth they deserve.

Joshua Andrus
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