Disciplining Your Disappointments

The cure to disciplining your dissapointments is gratitude,

This is said many different ways in seminars, in home, in the church, in counseling, in business. It is the attitude of gratitude in seminars, the be greatful for what you have in home, the count your many blessings in church, the cognitive positive re-frame, and the focus on what you want to have grow in your business.

With that many examples of areas that the Attitude of gratitude is important, it is crucial to give some examples of how to make it a habit. Pity parties are the opposite of the attitude of gratitude. Pity parties don't benefit anyone, at least not the way most people celebrate them.

Here are some suggestions to swing away from the pity party into a productive zone of creation in gratitude-

1) Have the pity party, didn't expect that one did you? It's true that sometimes resisting the aweful all the time can result in stuffing not processing, in a log jam of emotions and even worse activities of life. Jennifer Anniston in an interview about her break up with Brad Pitt said that in this and other areas of life she has the pity party. . . next step find out how
2) Put up a boundary of time around how long you will have your feel bad session. What Ms. Anniston said about the painful break up that I thought was so profound is that she has the pity party for a set time, looks at her role in the matter, takes ownership and comes out the other side with a better attitude and the life lesson learned. (Love Jen's work, but more importantly I am a student of great philosphy, and this is one of the best)
3) Take out a pad of paper and write all the lessons learned. It is crucial to not keep emotions with content in your mind. Emotions are irrationale impulses in your mind and can cloud reality. They can really mess with committments and cut your potential.
4) You are probably not going to resolve everything, but writing things down has an amazing way of helping you to let things go. If you feel back in control of your emotions unstead of the emotions controlling you then . . .
5) Now time yourself and write down all the things in your life you are greatful for. Set a watch, because just like you vented on paper this exercise can be lengthy and could sidetrack you I like to look at ten minutes. I am going to write from the heart not the head for the next 5 minutes so that you all know what I mean:
My family, I have a wonderful wife, 3 beautiful kids, a dog, my wife is trying to get another, i love my kids personalities, my understanding of God, my relationship with Jesus, I love the activities that we do as a family, the way my son lusts for life and sports, Braydens smile, My daughter when she blushes and gets shy when you smile, she is saying dadaddadd ddadd right now and it is making me grin, I love my wife's passion, I love the area we are blessed to live, the creation of the ocean, the home and it's spacious living and family room to recreate, I love my backyard and the entertainment oppurtunities, I love it when my mom and step dad come out to visit in their plane, I love to fly in that plane, and the promise that I will have one some day, I love my great mind keeps me entertained, I love my all 4 working limbs, my lungs, my health, and wealth, I love the chance to meet new people and I am capable of making friends, I love the feelings of confidence when I stretch and do my best. I love the oppurtunity of the business I work in, I love the job I have that allows me to grow as I am building an empire, and allows me to assist in the changing of peoples life, I love our friends and our business partners who have become such great friends, I love the promise of the future, the lesssons of the past and the gift that is the present.

Wow that was about 3 minutes of typing and I could have gone on for a longer time, I was having a rough time this morning, no longer though trust the process, try this activity when you are getting down, or even to sustain you staying up.

I say be greatful not scared. I say be full of faith not fear.

Joshua Andrus
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